Resources for Couples
Resources for Couples
Learning modules reflect my clinical experience and understanding of the current research. However, every couple is unique. My hope is that the information in these modules (including areas of disagreement) will be used to support honest conversation as you co-create a relationship that serves you both.
Each module has three parts:
an introductory video that gives an overall sense of the topic,
additional videos links to broaden understanding, and
a PDF with homework/practice exercises. A lot of the work happens between sessions. Homework is essential. It provides an opportunity to practice new skills and deepen connection.
Module 1. The Art of Listening
The goal of this module is to increase connection and understanding through effective listening. Thoughtful listening helps build trust and increases openness. It is an active demonstration of caring and respect.
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Module 2. Trust and Commitment
In this module, we will explore trust, commitment and the concept of the “good enough” relationship.
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Module 3. Small Things Often
Small things can make a big difference. Please join me as we explore the impact of appreciation and gratitude. We will also examine the effect of giving your partner the benefit of the doubt.
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Module 4. Attachment
Let’s take a look at the science of love. In this module, we explore attachment, attunement, styles of relating and the couple bubble.
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Module 5. A Positive Perspective
This module is devoted to creating a positive perspective. We talk about positive sentiment override, accepting influence and differentiation.
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Module 6. Your Nervous System
The topic of discussion for this module centers on our nervous systems, based on the work of Stephen Porges and Dan Siegal. Understanding the way we respond when activated can help with communication and conflict.
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Module 7. The Dance: Patterns of Interaction
Now, it’s time to turn our attention to the patterns of interaction within the relationship. This is an interactive module that asks both partners to consider the ways in which each contributes to the relationship dynamics.
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Module 8. Expressing Needs
The focus of this module is on recognizing and expressing attachment needs. For some, this is a relatively easy concept. However, for those that prioritize others’ emotional well-being over their own, it may be a little more challenging. I’m interested to know how it goes for you.
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Module 9. Conflict & Repair
Every relationship will have disagreements and conflict. Although uncomfortable, conflict can be a catalyst for deeper understanding and growth. In this module, we will explore ways to express disagreement and manage conflict in ways that strengthen the relationship.
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Module 10. Life Dreams & Shared Meaning
In this module, we examine the ways in which couples co-create shared meaning and dreams. We will talk a little about how roles are established, the ways in which individual dreams are supported and how couples use rituals of connection to strengthen a shared sense of purpose.
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