Grief: I just want to be with him
Many people that are grieving experience deep yearning. In its most basic definition, yearning can be defined as a grief response in which one strongly desires to be the person that is deceased.
How long will I grieve my child?
I’ve learned that these waves of grief are a normal and natural response to loss. When someone you love dearly dies, you may experience these waves in varying degrees of intensity for the rest of your life. Your relationship with the waves, however, will most likely change. In the beginning, it feels like you won’t survive.
I keep expecting him to come home.
Do you find yourself expecting your loved one to walk through the door? This is a common experience. And current research suggests that there may be evolutionary neurobiological processes at work that create this phenomenon.
Your Brain on Grief
Our brains undergo some profound changes after a devastating loss. Your brain has a painful problem to solve. When your loved one was alive, your brain created a special kind of map for that person. And a lot of time and energy was used to create this map. It really struggles to navigate the new reality of loss and transform the relationship.